Success in Every Step


“If I lose my direction, I have to look to the north star, and I go to the North. That does not mean I expect to arrive at the North Star. I just want to go in that direction.” – Thich Nhat Hanh

How many times have we obsessed about an outcome, only to find that the value lay in the journey towards it? Consider your favorite moments this past holiday season.  The symmetrical, just-right-height tree is long gone, yet the debacle of picking it out will remain a favorite family story for years.

As we press on with resolutions, intentions and cleanses, let’s keep this knowledge in mind and accept what arises with compassion. A balance of determination and acceptance is necessary for fulfillment, just as the white and black of a yin-yang comprise a full circle. Goals point us in the right direction, acceptance allows us to enjoy each step of the way. When we do this, the path becomes much smoother.

Uncertainty of the future can be scary. This fear is what throws us in to extremes of over-planning or apathy. When we are firmly grounded in the present moment, we know that the future is yet to come. The only way we can effect change is here in the present.

This doesn’t mean goals are useless. In fact, when we are fully present, effective planning becomes much easier. We realize that all our conditions for happiness already exist and our frenetic dependence on future fulfillment melts away. This frees us to make thoughtful plans for the future, informed by true knowledge from the past.

When frustration arises about enacting your resolutions and intentions, try this brief meditation. Repeat it to yourself silently and breathe – until your shoulders and gut release their tension and your mind releases expectations.

Breathing in, I see that all I need to be happy exists in this moment.

Breathing out, I accept my journey, with compassion.

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I LOVE your thoughts here! As a psychologist, I probably know more than most how much good can be gained in the journey itself...yet how easy it is for me to forget this in my own life, especially when things are hectic or change is on the horizon. Thanks for the reminder!

Dear Kristen,

I'm so glad to hear that you were inspired to apply the same loving compassion you give to your patients - to yourself. As a nurturer, this can be easy to forget, but it is so important. We shine brightest and offer the most loving support when we acknowledge our own goodness and celebrate it.